Sensitive, The Untold Story – A beautiful documentary about a beautiful trait

Last night, my husband and I did something we don’t normally do.

Our nightly ritual normally consists of us putting the kids in bed, finishing up the housework, and then slumping down on the couch, mostly with a glass of red wine, to watch something that requires minimal brain activity and triggers little to no emotional response. Some might frown at the idea of two people shutting down that way when the day’s over. But at the end of an overwhelming day, that is how we unwind and empty our buckets.

Last night however, we decided to sit down with a glass of white (only because we’d run out of red) and watch the long-awaited and much anticipated documentary, ‘Sensitive, The Untold Story’. And it was beautiful, and moving, and deep, and I am still choked up thinking about it this morning.

Dr. Elaine Aron announced this project of hers on the 19th of June, 2014 in a wonderful email.

“I am nervous as I write this. This is a big leap for me, a cautious cheapskate,” she begins by saying, and almost fifteen months later, she presented her masterpiece to the world. People tuned in from all over the world to watch the live stream, while many others watched it over the next few days.

The movie was beautiful and informative, filled with interviews conducted with psychotherapists, scientists, parents, young adults, entrepreneurs, leaders, and more. I can’t even describe what it was like to watch all this on a screen, to hear things that I’ve been needing to hear my entire life, to see others going through what we went through as parents. For many, this movie will be self-validating after a lifetime of feeling different and a burden on others. For many others, it will be an eye-opener, shedding light on the reasons why some people seem to cry so easily, or retreat from crowds, or need so much time to recharge.

Throughout the whole movie last night I was teary-eyed. Every time someone said something I could relate to or make me go “ah-ha!” (which was basically everything that was said) I had to work very hard not to lose it completely. The fact that my husband was as excited as I was to see this movie, and sat through the whole thing, nodding in agreement and finally concluding that we need to send out the DVD to every school we know, made me all the more emotional.

Alanis Morissette with Elaine Aron Sensitive The Movie Highly Sensitive Person

“… ’cause without having read your book I would continue to feel like an insane person.”

As the mother of a highly sensitive child, this movie, or rather this movement fills my heart with joy. There is nothing like having to prove to others that there is nothing wrong with your child when they are so convinced that there is. Nothing can be as heartbreaking as seeing a child be so unfairly misjudged by friends, family and worst of all, teachers who have no idea what a highly sensitive child (HSC) is or that 20% of the population is actually highly sensitive. And to be able to witness the world start to change the way it is, and to see more and more people work so hard and with such passion to spread the word,  I am hopeful that one day we will all be better able to understand and work with one another, combining our strengths to make this world a better place.

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“1.4 Billion People are Highly Sensitive”

So last night we didn’t end up shutting down like we do on most nights. Even though we didn’t have much left to give, we watched something that made us think deeply about ourselves, our children, and the world; something that triggered so many emotions it was exhausting and exhilarating at the same time; something we desperately want to share with everyone we know in the hope that it might make them feel the way it made us feel.

And it was more than worth it.

Follow Sensitive The Movie to stay tuned for information the DVD release date and the second documentary on highly sensitive children! I am so exited about that one!

If you’ve seen the movie, please share your thoughts with us in the comments section below!

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13 thoughts on “Sensitive, The Untold Story – A beautiful documentary about a beautiful trait

  1. Nicole

    I (an HSP) watched the movie on Livestream in the UK the following day, with two HSP friends, and we were thoroughly moved, excited and tearful – it conveys a lot in a relatively short space of time, and in a clear and highly accessible way – the collaboration of science to get to this point is just amazing, and Elaine in pulling all these connections together is too! I also can’t wait for the DVD so I can share it with other HSPs, schools, workplaces… and I am also very excited about the next film, as work with HSCs is where I think it all needs to start so these kids leave school feeling ‘right’ about themselves and the world, and parents and carers of HSCs need all the help and support they can get to help get their support for the HSC right (speaking also as a parent of an HSC, whose goal in life is to help make the world a better place for HSCs and HSPs!!). This blog and community is also an amazing resource, as is happy Sensitive Kids, Amanda!

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    1. Leila Boukarim Post author

      I couldn’t agree more Nicole. It’s with our children that it all needs to begin. Those school years were the worst years of my life, and that is the last thing I want my son to feel about these precious first years. As Dr. Aron says in the movie (as well as in her book and her blog), knowing how to approach this from the very beginning, understanding our children and preventing damage from happening in the first place is crucial. Having to fix things later on can be frustrating, expensive, and maybe even impossible.

      Thanks so much for reading Nicole and for your beautiful words!

      (And yes, Amanda is an incredible person and contributor to this movement!)

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    1. Leila Boukarim Post author

      It really is very exciting! Thank you so much for reading. And if you know someone who might be more sensitive than most, please do let them know about this movie. It makes a world of difference to know we’re not crazy!

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  2. Martha Lerner

    Thanks for sharing! I too am an HSP as is my son and I remember when the Kickstarter for the movie came out…..I was so excited…….I donated as a founder along with thousands of others…..but I’ve yet to see it! Do you know how I can watch it now??? I was supposed to get a DVD also but haven’t heard anything about that either….I need to see this movie!!

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  4. Amber (@pileagold)

    Do you have any tips or resources for co-parenting a Highly Sensitive Child? I am without a doubt (I empathize with him almost like we ARE the same person) my son is highly sensitive, I am putting my all into gearing his life and beginning education to fit his needs in this way, while his dad has NO understanding of this, thinks it’s a “joke”, “not scientific” etc….. Wants to have “evaluations” performed for some sort of “learning disability”, when in reality he just doesn’t truly know and understand him. If you know of anyone in a similar situation or of any resources that might be helpful, I would be eternally grateful to share in these. I have spent the last hour reading your posts and you are a truly beautiful mother and woman, thank you!

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    1. Leila Boukarim Post author

      Oh Amber, reading your comment brought tears to my eyes. It can be so hard when one parent just doesn’t get it, and especially when the highly sensitive child is male, and it’s the father who won’t accept his son’s nature. A book I find wonderful for situations like these is Ted Zeff’s book The Strong Sensitive Boy. What I love about it is that he interviews men from different countries who tell readers what helped them growing up and what destroyed them. Some of the stories from these men show what a difference having a supportive and understanding father had on them. Similarly there are stories from men who had fathers who put them down and basically broke them. I think having dads read this book makes a big difference! It’s a real eye opener to what a difference a father’s attitude can make on a little boy growing up. There’s also the new documentary Sensitive: The Untold Story which really highlights the science and research behind this character trait, showing that it is in fact “a thing”!

      Also have you checked out the online forums I mention in my e-resources page? The private ones make for an incredible support system that saved me more than once!

      Please do get in touch any time, for anything at all! You can also send me private emails at leilaboukarim@gmail.com. I wish you and your family all the best Amber, and I hope things start looking up very soon!

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